This week in class, Brother williams shared his stories about death in the family and how it influenced his whole family. I am grateful for him to share his personal story even though it must be hard for him. Before his story, we talked about Actual Events, Behavioral response, Cognitions and Experience. He shared his story and we get to respond and observe those principles "ABCE".
Brother williams mentioned that year after the child passed away the divorce rate increases becasue they were blamming on each other.
Before any death happend in his family, there were fightings in the house between siblings and not much of gathering in family. However, after his brother passed away, they were trying to stay positive, gather around and pray about it and talked about it, there were no fightings, treat each other tenderly.
Very important lesson that I learned from his stories and experience, I thought having a good attitude is very important especially when there's death in the family. His brother's death was cause from medicine that his mom gave him, in this case we all know that she will feel guilty about it and feels like it's all her fault but instead of blamming on her, Brother William's dad comforted her, and everyone was comforting her. The best phrase that I heard from Brother Williams when he asked "What will you say to your spouse to comfort him/her?" and then he said " Neither of us knew" That really was a good comfort and have someone comforting helps improve family relationship and go through struggles.
I learned that as a family member, we can have positive attitude and comfort each other will strengthen the family relation.
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